Subjectivity Vs. Objectivity!

What is the difference between subjectivity and Objectivity; Papa? He enquired. Bloody hell; how do you explain this to this a child? I offered an example. I said; often people ask me “What is the first thing I do, when I arrive at London home?!”. The objective answer to that is: “I put my kettle on, make myself a cup of black tea…as you know that’s absolute truth.” And subjective answer would, Papa? That is if I said same thing but indirectly...If I shall say “It depends…it depends what kind of mood I am in…what is the weather like…what is there at home…etc etc etc…like if it sounds more like an opinion and less like an answer”. I further added; I take my ear away if I hear the word “It depends…”. So use it with caution, my son…if you want me to listen to you. Both of us LOLly.

Patience is the ability to withstand something difficult or irritating without a loss of composure. The opposite of patience might be frustration, irritation. Perseverance is the determination to stick to something and stay on course in spite of obstacles. The opposite might be apathy . As little children, we usually want to get our way.  When we see a bright shiny new object, we get fixated on it.  If we do not get it, we usually bug our parents until our persistence breaks down their defences and we finally get what we want.  As adults, we face challenges and difficulties that threaten to break our spirits.  Without perseverance , we may not overcome them.  There are similarities and differences between persistence and perseverance . The similarities include determination, not giving up, and willingness to take on challenges.  However, there are subtle differences between the two concepts such as the objective, the duration of the situation, and the effect of the process.

How can one be objective Papa?! The first thing one need to do, to ensure objectivity is to have patience…to observe intensely and then action. Without patience, we do things for which we might have to repent in the future. However, if we were patient…just like that little tortoise, we shall always win the race. But in football, they say, “Speed is everything”; Papa. Yeah that is one type of performance where you play the opponent…speed is required when you compare. Nevertheless, another type of performance is when you only pay attention to the ball and play; you do not care who your opponent is; just as Ronaldinho played, Maradona played or Messi plays.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, with a very small opening in it. For several hours, he sat and watched as a butterfly struggled to force its body through the tiny hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. He peered into the hole and saw that the butterfly appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could — it could go no further. Wanting to help, the man took a pair of scissors and gently snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.

The butterfly emerged immediately and easily. But, to his surprise, the man saw that it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man expected the wings to expand to support the body, but that did not happen. The butterfly was never able to fly; in fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its short life crawling around with shriveled wings and a swollen body.

What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the small opening of the cocoon was nature’s way of forcing fluid from its body into its wings. This way, the butterfly would be ready for flight once it achieved freedom from the cocoon.

If you knew that you would become a butterfly at the right time, how differently might you react? Your desperation to help can encourage you to take shortcuts, to avoid necessarily painful learning experiences, and to end up killing the very one or thing you are trying to help.

He said; I get it Papa. What is the morale of the story, I asked? “One must remember that struggle is needed to form something incredibly striking and beautiful and one should be patient during the struggle; he added” . Will you remember it always, I enquired? Of course, I will, he nodded. I asked how long will you remember?  Not sure, for long time. That is a subjective answer you know, I said. What would be an objective answer then, he asked. I told him, the answer in that case should be “I shall remember these until I pass it on to my kids”. We smiled and wished each other Goodnight.

I also wanted to wish you all beautiful people there a good night of sleep and lot of sweet dreams. Winter is just round the corner and in no time...the sound of jingle bells and illustrations of the sparking lights will appear across street and in the neighbourhood. A lot to look forward to…